I reject your reality and substitute it with my own!8 May , 2013
I was so mad yesterday after I picked Nicola up from school.
Let me begin a few weeks back, shall I? I’m sure I have mentioned (repeatedly) the class bully that reigns in my daughter’s class? Well, she’s been at it again! A couple of weeks ago, one day, Nicola complained to me that this L-bully hit her in the eye with a spade. I asked the teacher about it, because I though, “Really? A spade?” and she confirmed it. Apparently this earned her 30 minutes in time out, but it could very easily have costed my child her one of only two eyes! Grrr! Of course I made my unhappiness known and was assured that they would deal with the matter.
Yesterday the teacher was waiting for me at the gate (so that she could tell me the first version of the story of course). L-bully attacked Nicola with a building block and she had a massive goose egg bruise on her forehead. This earned her another 10 minutes in time out – you know, since that was SO effective the last time. Grrrr! I had the teacher and the principal in discussions about the matter and I made it very clear that I am not sending my child to their school as a boxing bag for this little brat. Guess what they think the reason is why she might be behaving this way? Apparently it’s because her dad is raising her on his own. WTF?!
First off, I don’t really care why she is acting the way she does. I am only concerned with the behavioural problems of my own child when or if she has any, and any causes of that – I cannot save the world, so I’ll keep to my corner of it, thank you very much. Secondly, there are many children being raised in one parent homes (dads or moms) who are perfectly balanced and don’t feel the need to attack other kids because of their missing other parent, believe it or not there are even kids with no parents who manage to grow up without attacking everybody around them either. What a bullshit excuse! And if they insist on sticking to that excuse then am I to assume that she sees this kind of behaviouras acceptable, is it what she’s used to? Then someone needs to look into that instead of making excuses for her.
I told them they better take care of this, or I will. And I also made it clear that I will be encouraging Nicola to hit back if L-bully hurts her again, and there better not be any consequences – if they can’t keep a lid on this then they can’t expect my child to just stand there and turn the other cheek/eye/forehead. I also told Nicola that, in front of them, and had them confirm to her that it will be okay if she fights back and she won’t get into any trouble (she seemed to perk up quite a bit after this).
I am furious…and relaunching the search for martial arts classes that are worth something. (Nicola is keen to take up Kung Fu because she also wants to see a panda – hahaha!). We also spent a bit of time last night practising a few basic strikes and blocks. Can you just imagine Nicola’s surprise when I taught her how to hit, and let her practice on me until I felt she packed enough of a punch! – I took a few solid hits to the face, there’s some real potential we can build on here 😉 .
As much as I know that these skills will probably come in handy for more than just nursery school one day, I really loathe the fact that I have to teach my child how to hurt another person at the age of 3 already! Grrr…dammit…just grrrr! 😦