2 June , 2009

Over the last few days I have felt the crappest I have felt during this entire pregnancy. I became car sick, I had morning noon and night sickness and I just felt generally shitty.

But today it’s like a light has been switched on for me…I know what the problem is now.

I have allowed negative people to influence me and it’s making me physically ill, like a poison. If I want to feel better all I have to do is stop it! It was actually fairly stupid of me to let it get this out of hand to begin with.

Enough is enough – I am going to pull myself toward myself and get on with it now. 😉 (I am starting to feel better already!)


  1. Good on you cuzzie. That’s the Louisa we know and love 🙂

  2. Hope the mind over matter story works 🙂

  3. Sock it to them. Don’t let other people get you down.

  4. A friend of mine is also pregnant – about as far as you, also unplanned, dad not in the picture!

    ANYHOO she said to me yday that she read her morning sickness is psychological so she is now TELLING herself she is fine and she too feels better 🙂

    But sorry there are negative people in your life 😦

  5. People are definitely a big influence, but at the end of the day, you get to choose your response. Sounds like enough is enough and you’re back on the saddle again.

  6. I’m all for “keeping out the negativity”. If they don’t make you smile & love life then, as my Shrink Friend would say, “weed them from your garden”.

  7. Who’s been making you negative!!??!? Lemme at ’em!!!

  8. Arkwife, you know me – I just don’t have it in me to go on like that for longer than a few days at a time. 😉 I’ll admit to being a optimist, and on some days even a morning person.

    Thanks Jenty, I’m sure it will. I really am feeling a lot better already, it helps to know that I’m playing according to my own rules now so I don’t have to feel so helpless all the time. I am not a passenger on this trip – I am the damn captain and it’s time I start acting like it.

    Miss P, nope – not letting that happen again. I’m not going to allow anyone to upset me like this again, indifference that’s what they’re getting now, just not worth the fuss really. 😛

    Laura, well I’m glad I’m not the only one then. Where did she read that? All the books I have say it’s hormonal – oh well? *shrug* Tell your friend I hope she feels better soon. Don’t worry too much about the negative people in my life, I am very good at cutting them out. 😉

    JD, too true. Took me long enough as well to reach this point. I started out so positive and then I’m not sure how I let myself slip into this funk – just goes to show you must always be very vigilant about what goes on in and around you I guess. I’m glad to be back in the saddle again.

    Champs, clever friend you have there. Negative people and negative influences are just so exhausting – there’s no way I’m putting up with any more of that right now. I just don’t have the energy for other people to leach on. Weeding them out at once!

    Angel, there’s a couple of people who I don’t think mean to be like that – and one specific one who probably does. You know who: He-who-shall-not-be-named, who then became J, then was briefly called the dad, and who I think I will now refer to as The Great Communicator (TGC for short).

  9. bloody hippie. i *knew* you were one of them. you just used to hide it better.

    ps: am snorting at the 24/7 morning sickness. been there, done that.

  10. 😆 Busted! ExMi, I am making a daisy chain as we speak (not). And you shouldn’t laugh too hard – you’re not infertile yet ya know, it could happen to you again. 😛

  11. Well done to you for recognizing the problem and doing something about it!

    Proud of you… and try to enjoy the pregnancy, even when you feel so naar!

  12. it’s really a good idea not to let negativity bother you whe you are pregnant. imagine how happy you being happy will make your little grape.

  13. Hi Louisa

    Haven’t been reading your blog for a while and I’m sorry to see you’re not feeling well.

    Negativity from people is shocking and I’m amazed at how selfish people can be. I can’t relate to the dad being such an a-hole, but I have also discovered the nastiness and selfishness that comes with what is clearly jealousy.

    Anyhoo. Morning sickness has alot to do with your mental state. I find that when I’m extremely tired I KNOW I will have nausea all day. At one point I slept in my car during lunch time just to try and at least be able to function for the rest of the day! I ALSO find that when my partner and I fight (which is often due to my extreme emotions) my belly starts to cramp! Very scary!!!

    So the moral of the story is to TRY to rest, don’t get stressed and enjoy the miracle that this baby is to you.

    I am sick with the flu, but otherwise feeling good… going for my first real gynae visit tomorrow. 🙂

    Thinking of you.

  14. Wenchy, thanks…I think this is all going to become a lot more real for me next week when we have our first scan. *fingers crossed* 😀

    Rebecca, yip – you are right. The grape likes happy a lot more than not-happy. I would go so far as to say the grape DEMANDS it or just flattens me with feeling green till I cheer the hell up. 😉

    Hi Anon, 🙂 thanks…good to know it’s not my imagination. It’s actually amazing that being positive can have such a big effect physically. I’m not going to let TGC (also known as the a-hole) upset me anymore, he’ll just have to go torture someone else cause I’m not playing. I hope it goes really well at your appointment – please let me know! I’m very excited about mine on Tuesday too.

  15. Way to go! Coincidentally, I was with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while yesterday and among other things said I’d been down in the dumps a lot lately… He was fabulous and totally turned my perspective around. Now the glass is half-full again instead of half-empty. Isn’t it amazing what a change in attitude can do?!

  16. MoDLin, yeah it makes a hell of a difference. And when you’re in a good mood even more good things tend to come your way (or you just see the good in all the things that come your way – jury is still out on that one) ;-). I don’t get into a bad spot like this often, because I’m an eternal optimist by heart – but when I do I know there are a few special friends that know exactly how to yank me out of it again, for which I am very grateful.

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